
Psychologists have a name for the thing that quietly drives a parent to want a hand in their adult child’s decisions long after they’re needed — generativity, the need to feel one is still contributing to something beyond oneself — and once you have the word for it, the small insistences stop looking like control and start looking like a parent trying not to become obsolete
Most adult children can name the pattern from memory: the unsolicited opinion about the job offer, the follow-up question about the apartment asked twice, the










