If these 7 words are part of your vocabulary, you have above-average intelligence

by Anja Keller
October 1, 2025

Some people think intelligence shows up as big words and bigger speeches.

In my house, it shows up in the school drop-off lane, during Lego negotiations, and while I’m decanting snack crackers into bins that actually close.

Words are tools; the right ones make life calmer, faster, and more thoughtful.

Over the years—through corporate life, the wild switch to working from home with kids, and the daily drill of calendars, laundry, and feelings—I’ve noticed seven small-but-mighty words that signal sharp thinking.

When these words are part of your everyday language, they help you be smart—clearer, calmer, kinder to yourself and others:

1) Nuance

Do you ever pause and think, “It’s not black or white; there’s more to this”?

That pause is called nuance.

Nuance is the difference between “Screen time is bad” and “Screen time can be helpful with guardrails.”

It lets you see complexity without spiraling into confusion.

When Greta tells me a classmate was “mean,” nuance helps me ask, “What happened before that?”

Sometimes the “mean” was actually a misunderstanding; sometimes it was tiredness—often it was both.

People who use the word nuance tend to tolerate ambiguity.

That’s a quiet superpower.

It keeps meetings productive (“We’re both right, just at different levels of detail”), and it keeps family life humane (“This solution works on weekdays, but weekends have different parameters”).

Intelligence isn’t the loudest opinion; it’s the capacity to hold two truths at once without exploding.

2) Hypothesis

“Let’s test a hypothesis” is how I turn guesswork into a plan.

A hypothesis is simply a thoughtful guess you can check.

When Emil kept waking up grumpy, our heads went to a hundred places.

Growth spurt? Late bedtime? Too many blueberries? Instead of debating forever, I said: “Hypothesis: He needs a steadier late-afternoon snack.”

We tried it for a week, noted the results, and adjusted—it worked!

Using hypothesis-thinking at work or at home tells people you’re not married to your opinion—you’re married to learning.

It’s humble and rigorous at once, and it also short-circuits fights.

You don’t need to win; you need to learn fast.

3) Iterate

“Perfect” doesn’t survive toddlers or team projects.

“Better” does.

Iterate means improve in small steps—run a loop, learn, tweak, repeat.

Our toy rotation lives on iteration.

I set out three simple baskets (cars, play food, blocks) and keep a hidden stash in the closet.

Every two weeks I swap one basket—that’s it.

No Pinterest-level makeover, just tiny changes that keep play fresh and clean-up predictable.

Over time, Greta and Emil play longer and fight less. We learned this by iterating.

I don’t need a perfect system—I need a system that learns.

If your meal planning fails every Thursday, don’t quit meal planning.

Iterate Thursday and make it pasta night or leftovers night.

Intelligence often looks like quiet persistence applied to small loops.

4) Trade-off

Every choice costs something—time, money, energy, and attention.

Intelligent people say the quiet part out loud: The trade-off.

When Lukas and I choose a Saturday morning hike, we’re choosing not to deep-clean the playroom.

That’s a trade-off we’ll accept, because fresh air pays dividends in afternoon attitudes.

When a manager at work wants a “quick” report by end of day, a smart reply is, “Happy to do it. What should we trade off—depth, scope, or timeline?”

That’s not being difficult; it’s being clear.

Calling out trade-offs does two things.

First, it surfaces hidden constraints.

Second, it reduces guilt.

If you pick store-bought cupcakes, you didn’t “fail at baking.”

You made an efficient trade-off to free up bandwidth for bedtime reading.

Own it—our kids learn how to decide by watching how we decide.

5) Constraint

A constraint is a limit that shapes your solution.

It’s the rectangle of the picture frame, the size of your trunk, the school pickup window that refuses to move no matter how persuasive you are.

When I finally embraced constraints, our house got calmer.

I stopped trying to fit 12 after-school activities into the physics of time and started asking, “Given our 4–7 p.m. window, what works?”

We now use a simple rule: One kid activity per weekday, tops.

That constraint protects dinner, baths, and the mysterious land where socks go to hide.

At work, constraints focus teams. “We have two designers and three weeks” triggers a smarter plan than “Sky’s the limit.”

Constraints aren’t fun, but they’re fertile and they force creativity.

Once you name constraints, the path gets clearer.

You move from fantasy to design and you stop resenting reality and start working with it.

6) Heuristic

A heuristic is a simple rule of thumb that works well enough, fast.

It’s not perfect; it’s practical.

Think of it as a mental shortcut you can trust most of the time.

In the mornings, my heuristic is “shoes before snacks.”

If shoes go on first, we leave on time; if snacks come first, I end up negotiating with a half-barefoot child about pretzels while my coffee cools into sadness.

At work, my heuristic for inbox triage is “two-minute rule”: If I can do it in under two minutes, I do it now.

Everything else gets time-boxed.

The trick is choosing good shortcuts and revisiting them when life shifts.

Heuristics free your brain for the stuff that deserves depth (a tough conversation, a tricky project, or deciding whether Emil’s dinosaur pajamas can be worn to preschool again if we call them “day dinos”).

Try building one new heuristic per month.

Keep it simple, honest, and easy to remember.

7) Yet

Tiny word, big leverage. Yet turns a dead end into a detour.

“I can’t solve long division” becomes “I can’t solve long division yet.”

The brain hears possibility.

Kids who use yet stick with challenges longer; adults do too.

When Greta struggled with tying shoes, we taped a little note by the door: “Not yet = on the way.”

Every morning, one try—no pressure.

Two weeks later, she nailed it and announced a grand opening of her “Shoe-tying Shop” with handwritten price tags.

Classic Greta!

Yet is a permission slip to practice—so, say it out loud.

It feels small, but watch what changes when you tack yet onto a hard thing.

A note on confidence and kindness

Intelligence shows up as calm courage.

These words won’t make you cold or rigid; they make you kinder.

When you call out trade-offs, you stop judging; when you use yet, you give everyone—including yourself—room to grow.

I used to think “smart” meant having the answer.

Now I think it means asking better questions and building systems that work on ordinary days.

The words above are how I get there!

 

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